PLAYING, 'VICTIM', FOR EASY LIFE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

''No body understands me.''

'' I am like this because of these things, because of these people and because of these incidents, happened to me.''

More than 90% of the population must have played this 'victim' role ,some time or the other in their life.

Very good percentage of people take this as long as possible, because, this way the life becomes easy........can't do because of this.........they try to live on sympathy of others and not on hard work !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sad ,  when this is done by talented people !!!!!!!!!!!!!

What we all know is that , we are in control of our thinking process and we can make necessary adjustments to be free of this.

In modern era, where the psychology too is updated, no one can play this role easily.

Only way, that too the easiest , is to wake up and start working hard !!!!!!!!!

FEELING , 'HURT'...............................

The negative words or actions of people hurt our feelings.

When we feel hurt, the dynamics of relationship with the other 

changes for ever.

But, if we understand that the other person is not an expert

to make the comment, we will not feel hurt !!!!

Experts do not pass comments, they ,only try to pass on their

expertise by way of suggestions.

Confident people suggest , do not force any thing on others!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This maturity will help us to be free of the negative feeling 

and can save us from distractions in our life !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CLASH OF INTERESTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Clash of interests cause the disharmony in families and organisations.

This happens , when all the members do not know the common theme , with which they have to live !

Royal families had the 'royalty' theme, and none in the family will do any thing, which bring disrepute to the family.

Present generations do not bother about it, they rather do not know the importance of it.... hence, they cause disrepute to the family.

This is the same with all families, in this era !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It is a shame that the hard works of older generations are not taken care of !!!

SILENT SACRIFICES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Parents/old generations, sacrifice a lot for their young generations.

But, the generation , born in comforts never are able to recognize this.......they never had to work for it and hence will never know it.

Rather than recognizing , they try to find fault with the people,who sacrificed and contributed for them.

Modern day schools, too do not teach children about, how generations have evolved to this stage............modern teachers themselves do not know !!!!

This leads, the young ones to live without the minimum of good human qualities.

Hats off to the real teachers who taught us the most required human qualities.

Happy teachers' day !.............India is celebrating ' teachers day today.

WITHOUT THOSE HUMAN VALUES, THESE BLOGS WOULD NOT HAVE BEEN POSSIBLE.

A SMALL EFFORT IS BEING MADE TO PASS ON SOME OF THOSE VALUES, WITH ALL HUMILITY,THROUGH
THIS BLOG , ON OCCASIONS. 

BROADCASTING WEAKNESSES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People with low confidence have many misconceptions......

Some teenagers think, smoking and drinking will make others

believe them, to be cool and confident.

This they do it openly and broad cast as if it is a major achievement.

In reality , the crooks take advantage of their weakness !!!

We should be beware of what we are doing !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NOT MOTIVATED ??? , NOT TRUE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We often hear that , '' I am not motivated ''.

''Self motivation is very difficult, I wish I know, how to motivate myself ''

This is another excuse .

All our actions or inaction are motivated.

When we are not doing any thing, the very same laziness is a motivation..........to sit idle and enjoy the pleasure ,we get from 
inaction.

Motivations are different , but all are motivated , either to do some thing or not to do any thing at all.

We get pleasure from every thing, and hence, our motivation has to be directed towards more constructive and positive work.
Awareness of negative motivations will help us a lot , to change it ............. it is a matter of our choice !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

FEAR OF SUCCESS !!!!!

We all want to be successful in life. 

But, success has one disadvantage, 'more responsibility'.

This extra responsibility creates fear in our minds , when we 

are low in confidence. This persuade us to skip success and 

sabotage it.

But, our bad ego and false prestige doesn't allow us to express

our real feeling openly.

Here is when , we divert our attention from the priority to 

other unfamiliar field....we want to prove some thing to others.

We mess up our lives this way.......false prestige and bad ego

are the best friends , when we lack confidence.

A bit of awareness about these will help us to get over it

and lead confident , successful life !!!!!!!